Dear Basic Training …
I think the light that you saw in her in the beginning of your relationship is still there but its clouded now. I wouldn’t dare call her basic because a woman who has a vision never loses it, she simple becomes side tracked. Everyone needs someone in their corner that can see the best in them even when they can’t themselves. Your job as her man is to protect, honor, and bring the best out of her.
Also, she may be afraid of what her full potential may bring or something you may have done could have detered her vision. Woman’s intuition may have kicked in without her even knowing it. Once you started to feel like she was basic or began to feel discouraged about her I can guarantee your actions said it before you did. Your body language may have changed, you may not have put the same passion behind every kiss or hug that you did before. If she picked up on it than no she’s not going to want to go to the top with a man who may not believe in her the way he once did.
In this case you have to reassure her that your still in her corner and you only want the best for her. You say you have so many big hopes and dreams , make sure she knows that they are for your team which is led by you AND her. Remind her she doesn’t ever have to be alone because she has you. Women will love for numerous reasons and security is one of the leading ones.
It just looks to me that she needs some training. She’s probably not used to anyone matching her aspirations. If she says she’s tired, aid her in getting rest. If the kids are bothering her, take them for the day and let her have mommy time. Whatever she says her obstacles are help her get through them instead of getting frustrated. Show her your a team. I bet you’ll see the light again.
Hope I shed some light for you …
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